Falling in love: 5 tips that will help you during the pandemic
Falling in love during the pandemic could be tough. Especially if you are new to the dating scene or thinking about it. There are a lot of questions that may run across your mind. It is your choice to be in a relationship with your Powermate. If this is what you desire, you can save time in the dating game!
In a recent interview, we answered these 5 questions. The answers will actually help you when it comes to falling in love.
QUESTION 1: How do you keep the romance alive, outside of the bedroom and outside of nighttime hours?
Be Intentional : You have to know why you are doing what you are doing. If you are in a new relationship it can easily get monotonous. So one way to continue to keep the spice alive is to switch things up a bit. One example of this is to turn the bedroom into the kitchen and the kitchen into the bedroom.
Foreplay and flirting with your spouse are 24-hour jobs for Powermates who have fallen in love. When you think romance you think of the activities leading up to action in the bedroom. Or direct action in the bedroom. But what if that romance takes place in the kitchen? Use your imagination and switch things up. HINT HINT!!! During the pandemic, you have to be creative. It has made it tough for singles to successfully date but they surely didn’t give up on falling in love.
QUESTION 2: What ways can we learn each other during the pandemic that will help with falling in love?
It all goes back to communication. You have got to learn how to constantly communicate with your partner. You always have to be communicating with each other and being cognizant of the other person. Their likes/disikes and any other changes you may notice. If they are changing you have to be willing to change with them. Or there will always be friction in the relationship as your relationship will be out of alignment.
We recently recorded a podcast episode where we talked about the love of my grandparents and how they constantly learned each other. My grandfather had specific needs when it came to his meals and my grandmother was always on top of it. When she served him his meals and he didn’t eat she knew that something was up. So he would have to communicate about what changed so that she could prepare what he would actually eat. This comes with the territory when you fall in love and it is not cookie cutter. Remember that falling in love doesn’t have to look the same as everyone else.
QUESTION 3: How do you know when is the right time to talk about hard things?
So for example, something that is bothering you. but you don't want it to be an argument, you want to say it what love. Well, this is a question that we always get as relationship strategists and coaches about the approach in a relationship. Everything that you do in life, absolutely everything, including every conversation doesn't have to be an argument. When you have an argument. It's because you chose to make it an argument.
You can have the most far apart opinions with someone and just be in disagreement. The conversation doesn't have to be an argument based on the attitude you enter it with. If you enter into it, saying, “I'm having this discussion, in love, and with love” you are already in the mindset that you're not going to blow up. If the other person decides that they want to blow up, you get to check that respectfully. Clearly state that you didn't come to argue, however you came to have a very important and civilized discussion. Falling in love during the pandemic is a desire for many singles but having tough conversations is a skill that definitely can be learned.
QUESTION 4: How did you prepare to share your personal space with your Powermate?
Well, priot to meeting your Powermate you are going to be living and loving the single life. You will have single folk tendencies that you’ve become accunstom to. So one of the biggest pivots you will need to make is to SHIFT your way of thinking. You will go from thinking like a single person to thinkng of others in your space everytime you do something, cook a meal, lay in bed, use the bathroom, etc. The pandemic has made it hard for singles to successfully date so you have to embrace the shift so that you can focus on falling in love
When you think about your desire for a Powermate relationship the ball is always in your court to design the love life that you want to have. You need to always remember that everyone is a Powermate for someone but not everyone is your Powermate.
QUESTION 5: How do you handle the concerns of being a BONUS parent?
One of the biggest fears for some who is single, especially for someone who does not have children is how to build a relationship with the kids of the person they are interested in being in a relationship with. It is very easy to hear and listen to all the horror stories about dating someone who has children. Like, all the baby mama/baby daddy drama, worrying about not connecting with the children, and even worrying about being judged by your peers for settling for someone with kids.
As I single man who knew he was ready to connect with his Queen, this was already something that was top of mind and I had made up my mind that it was going to be a tough thing to do. But I think what was really cool was when I started doing the work on myself, to open myself up to a relationship, no matter how God designed it. When I met Micca she had 3 boys and I did not have any biological children. I had to learn how to really love and respect these boys as individual young men and at the same time be myself. This was super important. I knew we could develop a relationship, but it had to be on an individual basis.
Love is s Power Language and it is desired by many The pandemic made it tough for singles to successfully date but they surely didn’t give up on falling in love
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About the Authors
Rio and Micca Watkins are Powermate Relationship Strategists, Transformational Speakers, and 3x Best Selling Authors. They are also coaches and matchmakers who champion busy singles who are sick and tired of the old way of building relationships and are ready to have peaceful, drama-free love. Rio and Micca use their voices to amplify healthy relationships. Most notable are their appearances in Speakers Magazine, Living the Principles podcast and the Black Speakers Network (BSN) podcast. They use their proprietary Powermate Attraction Framework: Vision + Plan + Action (VPA)© to help singles do dating differently!